AITA for telling my friend our husbands spent the day at the strip club?
I (36F) am 5 months postpartum. My husband (34 M) and I welcomed our son last fall after years of infertility and multiple rounds of IVF. While becoming a mom has been an incredible joy it has also been physically and emotionally exhausting.
I do most of it on my own as my husband works out of town 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off. I had a c section and have honestly just struggled with recovery and PP mental health. Our baby had severe reflux hated being put down and would only sleep in short stretches. When my husband is home, I have asked him to help more so I can recover. Instead, his time often goes elsewhere but honestly that is a story for a different post. Today my husband had plans to go to the shooting range with his friend.
He left before I was even awake. At 12:50 pm I checked his location and saw he was at a strip club… I texted asking where he was. He said lunch. I replied, “at the strip club?” He said they were there for steak and fries. The conversation ensued about how I’m mad no matter why he does. I wrapped it up saying that I was not okay with this and felt incredibly disrespected. He did not reply. 3 hours later I messaged his friends wife- not to cause trouble, but because I needed someone to talk to. She had no idea he was there.
When she called her husband he lied and said they were at twin peaks- she told him she knew and hung up on him. Immediately after that my husband called and texted me. Telling me how stupid and selfish I am, that I should start applying for jobs, that the bank is closed and that I should lawyer up. His friend also sent angry messages to me. I then checked our bank account and saw my husband had moved all of our money out of our joint account. So… AITA for telling my friend’s wife the truth?
