AITA -Not allowing children at our wedding?
Me (F-28) an my Fiancé (M-30) are getting married in 2028. We are having a small wedding. 60-70 people. Our church holds 70. We are having no children (besides our 1 kid) at the ceremony, we are allowing children at our reception. We both have children on each side, so we set up children care.
Its only 30 minutes for our ceremony. Our church has a child’s floor, so if they need child care we have someone set up down there. Now the issue.
His family only has 6 kids all from 1 person. I have 3 from 3 differnet familys. Im being told my side isn’t as important because were not blood. I grew up with those kids an I’m the god parent to 2 of them. (Were not allowing them there either) so since the others are blood we should allow them there.
Now the person with 6 kids, said our engagement was a mistake, we shouldn’t do it. Never said congrats. Threw a fit if anyone mentioned it to us. I said they shouldnt be there regardless if they aren’t supportive. My fiancé wants them there. So im trying to br supportive in that sense.
I am being blammed for a joint choice. We both had out reasons. Kids cant sit still. The kids dont listen. All kids are under 8. The kids would throw our guest list for the seating in the chapel higher then we can have. So we would have to cut adults out that want to be there.
We have the child care, they dont want that, we suggested having them in the far back incase they need to step out (random chairs an stick them in a corner) . My fiancé doesnt want his family leaving in the middle. Which is valid.
We have had 4 conversation with the family. Nothing is getting through. My fiancé thinks lucky number 5 will do it. Their being aggressive, passive some times, talking sh*t about us, or just cold shoulder. Its to the point im thinking about canceling the wedding.
So AITA for sticking to our guns an saying no kids an taking the L for who ever decides not to go. Or should we figure a way for children to magically be there.
Update- i have decided to call it off the wedd8ng. If we do decided to still get married. We will be eloping an no one will know. Besides personal family an friends that were/are truly happy for usb
