WIBTAH if I send my wife’s AP’s GF evidence of their affair?
I 32M have been married to my wife 31F for little over a year, we’ve been together for 9 years in total and have a 10 months old baby. Her behavior was off and something was just nagging me to check her phone. Man, did it hit me like a train. Turns out, she met a guy like a week ago in a bar in our neighbourhood. The guy’s from the neighbourhood too. Just a week and they’re like sweethearts. She went to his place and they fooled around, but hadn’t had sex. Not that it matters at this point.
So I sent myself all the proofs, changed my passcode, prepared divorce papers and waited. She noticed something was off. She started pushing it, asking what’s up with me, why am I edgy about my phone when she woke me up, asked to give her my phone unlocked to “call herself as she don’t know where she put hers” etc. etc. Later she started pushing again and I just snapped and said fine, here’s my phone, now give me yours.
She gave in reluctantly, but she already deleted messages. However, she didn’t delete explicit photos from Recently shared album on iPhone, so I started asking about the photos. She started getting nervous and making some excuses and I had enough of it, I just dropped her phone, said I know everything and pulled out the papers and said “go, be happy, go fuck yourself I don’t care anymore”.
I’m livid, I’m lost, she threw everything away for someone she met like a week ago? Wtf? I bought us a house, I’m renovating that house myself after work and this is what I get in return? I can’t stand her, but I’m rethinking filling those papers because of the baby.
Sorry for venting. Anyways, I’m agonizing over telling this guy’s girlfriend about everything. She nearly caught them herself when she found my wife’s hair (one is blonde one is dark haired). He fed her some bullshit and she bought it apparently.
I’m torn between I don’t want to ruin their relationship and she should know + fuck those cheaters as a bonus.
The reason I don’t want to ruin his relationship even though in part he ruined my marriage is that he actually had moments like “this is fucked up, we’re going to hurt everyone, we shouldn’t be doing this but I like you so much” blah blah
So, what should I do? Nuke their relationship or leave them be?
EDIT: people are accusing me of fake story bcs how can I get papers quickly? It takes 30 mins to download template/form from the court website, fill in personal details and print it.
How do I have all these information? From their messages. They talked about everything, he even sent my wife photo of her hair his gf sent him when she found it.
