AIO because my (30f) new boyfriend (32m) doesn’t want to be snowed in with me and so I’m rethinking the relationship?
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We are expecting a large winter storm to hit. I asked my boyfriend if he wanted to come spend the snow day/night with me — we could make s’mores on the stove, play games, cuddle, watch shows, and of course other things. I was pretty excited, didn’t even think he would say no…He took a long pause and then said, “it sounds really nice but I think I’m going to stay home because it’s the perfect weather to stay in and play Xbox.” He went on to explain how he is trying to achieve some specific level.
I was pretty upset and disappointed that he said no, but we already made plans to do something ahead of the storm and so I didn’t make a big deal of it. Just was going to soak him up as much as I could before the storm.It comes time for our date before the storm hits (tonight) and he messages me 20 minutes before our date that he had something come up and so our plans fell through. I again was super upset and disappointed and I’ve now told him to give me some space to think.
He frequently cancels our plans because he wants to game or because he falls asleep. This is the 3rd week in a row where we have made plans that fell through because of something unforeseen on his end.I’ve talked to him about his inconsistency, and he says that he is trying to figure out a lot of stuff and he hopes I will wait for him because he wants me to be by his side as he figures it all out.I’m honestly just getting tired of getting my hopes up, just to be disappointed. I feel my needs are not being met and he just expects me to put my needs to the side until he finally has time/the ability to handle them.I guess I just really need some advice and I need to know if I am overreacting or if there is just no hope here.
Update: Wow. I didn’t expect this post to get nearly this much attention. Thank you to everyone who commented and provided their support. I’ve decided to move on from the relationship and all the comments and advice really helped! I’m sad things didn’t work out, but still wish him the best.
Enjoy a safe & warm snow day everyone!
