AIO? My BIL says when my dad dies, he’s moving nto his house and jacking up the rent on his other properties
Today, I found out that my brother in law said that when my father dies, he is going to move into his house and jack up all the rent on his rental properties.For context, my father owns about 20 rental properties around town. My partner and I live in one apartment of a duplex and he and my sister live next door. Two tenants live downstairs that happen to be good friends with my partner. He said this to the tenant that lives downstairs.
My father is 81 and it upsets me so much that he would say this as if he’s waiting for my dad to die. It also upset me bc they live in a 1 bedroom apartment with 2 kids. I asked my sister if they were ever going to move and she said they had no plans to, so now I’m thinking is their plan to wait for my parents to die so they can get their house? Also, my dad has given me strict instructions not to raise the rent on his tenants when he’s gone.
He loses a lot of money on rent, but he really tries to help people out and he has lived this way as long as I have known him. He has people that have been renting from him for many years and have fixed incomes.It infuriates me that he would first assume that he was getting all this and also that he would have agency to make that decision. I’m not sure if he was just talking crap, just saying what he would LIKE to do or if he’s truly planned this.
Should I tell my dad? Should I tell my sister? I don’t know what to do. I’m so upset.
*Edit- Thank you for the responses. I have received some solid advice. I’m going to first talk to my dad about what his plans are and what he has in writing to discern whether or not he should add or change anything to protect his wishes and to protect tenants and my sister and I. Based on that, I will feel out if I should tell him what was said. I know most people advised me to go ahead and tell him, but that could cause a rift between my sister and I, so I want to use that as a last resort. If it comes down to it, I will tell him.
Update: I felt weird bringing this up to my dad because essentially saying someone is waiting for you to die is a sensitive topic, so I decided to speak to my mom about it first. She initially dismissed what he said by saying “guys just like to brag sometimes,” but when I told her it really upset me, she told me not to worry about it because things will happen the way she and my dad want them to. She said she would talk to my dad and put together a will as soon as possible.
She also hinted “I know how they are,” (my sister and BIL) so that gave me a little comfort. She did not let on if she was surprised or hurt. The thing that bothered me though, was that she said that my partner should keep his mouth shut from now on, in other words shouldn’t have told me this information in the first place.Tf? Anyway, she’s going to talk to my dad tonight. I still plan to discuss it with him later.
