Ok I need you to tell me am I the a-hole?
My mom has a long track record of agreeing to babysit and not showing up (regardless of whether I pay her or not.) Her boyfriend takes precedence at all times regardless of wjat plans we have made. She regularly tells me she’s on her way and then doesnt text to say shes not coming she just doesnt show up then has bogus excuses.
I asked my mom two weeks ago to be here at 9:30 to watch the baby. She agreed. I reminded her three days ago and last night. Asked her to stay the night to be sure she’d be here. She said she couldn’t stay the night but she would be here at 9:30am. At 8:30 she was still in LA so I knew she wasn’t coming so I canceled my appointment.
At 10:30 I saw her drive by my house on “find my iphone.” (I have access because I pay for her phone.) She went 25 minutes past my house and stayed there for 90 minutes.
At that point i blocked her on Facebook and sent her a message saying “this was your last chance. Im done. Dont contact me again. Please have your phone number ported out because this line will be disconnected in 48 hours.”
Then I resumed my day.
At 12:08pm she comes in, and goes to pick up the baby as I’m telling her no and please leave. After ten minutes of me holding the baby away from her and asking her to leave, she got tears in her eyes and asked me to “please dont do this.” I said I didn’t do it, you did. You could have been holding her all morning starting at 9:30, but you had better things to do than keep your commitment to us. This is the fourth fifth sixth tenth time and it wont happen again. Please leave. So she grabbed her stuff and left, with tears in her eyes.
Am I wrong for what I did? We literally JUST had a long conversation three days ago about how her flaking makes me feel, and that if shes not coming to just say that instead of lying to me and having me waiting on her. I told her that if it happened again I was going to end contact.
And she did it again. It hurts my feelings that i am not important enough to her to keep her word, but more importantly, shes going to do it to my baby as well and I dont want her to be able to hurt my child by telling her she’s coming over but then not show up because her boyfriend needed something instead.
