AITA for kicking out my friend (who I let live rent-free for 8 months) after his room and bathroom became a biohazard, then telling him “no wonder your ex broke up with you” in the heat of the moment?
Okay so for context I’m 28 and my friend is 24 and about 8 months ago his girlfriend broke up with him, they were together for 5 years so it hit him pretty badly. Anyway I live in a small 2 bedroom apartment so after thinking it over for a bit I offered to let him stay with me rent free (he still had to pay for his own food, utilities and anything else he wanted.
At first it was fine he didn’t leave his room and mainly kept to him self as expected but 6 months down the line honestly his room and ensuite are fucking disgusting. his room smells to bad you can faintly smell it from the kitchen, I just checked his room and he has piles of bags of uber eats shit and a literal pile of garbage bags in 1 corner.
Don’t get me started on his ensuite. his bathroom is a fucked black mold growing in the shower corners, shower head and window, hair everywhere, toothpaste splattered on the mirror, toilet not flushed sometimes, wet towels left on the floor until they stink. I’ve slowly started to tell him he has to clean it up and sort himself out more and more as it gets more filthy.
Until yesterday when he told me I have to stop nagging him like his girlfriend used to and that comment got the best of me I’m not going to lie. Immediately I got so frustrated and kicked him out while screaming at him about how filthy the place is and when I threw him out I screamed no wonder your girlfriend broke up with you if you live like this.
Honestly I’m not proud of what I said but I refuse to enable this sort of lifestyle especially since it affects my quality of life now I’m happy to let him to keep staying here but I’ve told him he needs to order a cleaner to clean shit up or I’m throwing his stuff out by the end of the month. As he was leaving he told me I’m a terrible friend and I should have more empathy and while I do get he is struggling its been 8 months and I feel like he is starting to take advantage of me
