AITAH for saying “I’m going out for a fag” when having a cigarette.
Posting on behalf of my mother.
My mother is 56. She works with a small number of people and recently went out for a works do.
She says “I’m going out for a fag”, a couple of the women join her and then she returns. Later in the night she says the same and then returns.
The next day her boss called her in to speak to her. He said that he found the word she used incredibly offensive to himself and that she is to not to use it again. He quoted the exact two times she said it and in what context- he acknowledged there was no malice but that it was unacceptable.
My mums boss is a gay man who has adopted a child with his husband. They have never not got along and he was not one of the people smoking with my mum.
My mum believes she has don’t nothing wrong and has every right to continue saying the word “fag” when talking about a cigarette.
Is my mum in the wrong if she uses it again? Even though it would not be intentional as she has always said “I’m going for a fag?”
My mum has made no comments about any gay man or woman to her boss and has been supportive of him and has a professional relationship with him.
