AITAH for refusing to speak to grieving parents
A little history: My son “David” currently 23 started dating “Lena” ’24’ his sophomore year of high school. She was his first real relationship and they date on and off until she passed. Lena was an active addict the entire time she was with David. At first, she seems like a normal teen but stuff became obvious the longer they dated. David started doing drugs with her and was just as wild.
Didn’t know until later but Lena started drinking and doing drugs at 12 so by the time we met her she was already too far gone. My ex, my husband and I tried everything to help David and Lena but they would fight us at every step. At a certain point we had to stop trying with Lena because it was getting expensive to pay for both of their treatments. we sent David to multiple rehab programs, a troubled youth camp, tried moving him out of state but nothing happened, he would be clean for awhile then run back to Lena and the drugs.
Now in present, David is in prison for causing Lena’s death because he supplied her with drugs and she overdosed.The case was pretty much open and shut, he was high and overwhelmed when he was interrogated and confessed to everything. My ex and I got him a lawyer who was able to get the charged crimes reduced and he got a plea bargain. That was about a year ago and he still has about 5 years remaining, maybe less with gain time and taking classes.
Lena’s parents blamed David for her death despite her own actions and their refusal to help her when they could. They fought against the plea deal and tried to have David charged with murder. They wrote letters to the judge stating David was the driving force of their addictions when it was the opposite. Things honestly got so bad that they were harassing my daughters and I had to change our phones and threaten them with a restraining order.
Lena’s parents have been reaching out since the end of last year. In the last couple months I have received letters, emails to my personal and work accounts, they had messages passed from their niece to my daughter for me and my husband. We haven’t spoke since David’s last court date and I feel everything that can be said is said. As part of his plea deal, David wrote them an apology letter. My husband did send flowers on Lena’s birthday and for Christmas but I don’t feel any further communication is needed.
My daughter thinks I’m being harsh and they need closure but I feel things aren’t going to get better. Am I the asshole for refusing to speak to them?
