AITA for telling my friend to justc leave her boyfriend?
I apologize in advance for any grammar error, English isn’t my first language.
So my friend (20 F) has been in a relationship with this guy (21? M) for not even a year. At first glance, he seemed like a chill dude, even though my friend told me he can be quite “sensitive” at the time. I didn’t really care, other than the fact that he was making her happy, so I didn’t ask. Over the span of couple months, I’ve been getting almost nothing but small complaints; how he overreacts over the smallest of things, constantly cries because the girl can’t read his mind, always pushing for things to go further in the relationship, and so on.
He pushes to go further; they shared an apartment when they haven’t been not even 5-6 months together, he got her a promise ring (cute at first, now seen as some restriction), and went even beyond to push and guilt-trip her into sometimes being “intimate” because he wanted to.
When my friend said “sensitive” she MEANT it, this guy actually cries when you breathe wrong near him. And I’m aware you can have emotions, but at this point it’s suffocating my friend. She said she can’t do or say anything because he might ovethink it and see it as some personal “attack”. This invloves their newest fight from not even four days ago, where they spent majority of time together, when she suggested they go to her house to hang out there. She didn’t see anything wrong with that because he acted normal and agreed, but during the drive, he started bawling and whining how she didn’t want to spend time with him, how they’re always at her house and not at his, how they never have any peace (she has a big family) and no personal time together. He ALWAYS turns the situation around, making him the victim and making her constantly apologize, and that’s what happened here.
During this argument, he said something that left her speechless, something along the lines of “There are a lot of women, but out of all of them I gave the ring to you, forgive me, but no man would stand you for longer than a month with how you act.” I was shocked, because how can you be with someone who clearly doesn’t respect you or value your feelings? How can you just sit there and take it?
I told her she knew what she had to do, to break off the relationship because it would obviously only get worse, and she knows it, is aware of it. However, she still says she’s unsure because she still loves him despite all his flaws. I said there’s nothing else I can say, that my stand is final, that I’ll always be there for her but that I won’t push or do anything more since this was her decision to make.
I’m making this post strictly for some guidance, I’m not sure what more I can say to her or do. Do I let the time do its thing? Perhaps this seems like such a childish thing to post since the problem clearly isn’t mine, but I feel like I need to help more. P.S. I’m hanging out with her tomorrow since I’m finally on break, and will possibly update once I return.
