AITA for requesting to not let my MIL near me in my wedding?
I 25F i’m getting married in two weeks. My fiancee 25M have been together for 4 ways and engaged for 1. My MIL has recently started being weird about the wedding as has been really difficult to deal with. My parents are paying for the wedding (except for the alcohol, after they announced my in-laws they were going to pay, they de need to contribute with the alcohol) and are giving us 50% of the value of an apartment for us to buy and get a mortgage on the rest.
We feel really grateful and lucky to have my parents support. On the other hand, before my parents decided to give us that, they reached out to my fiancé’s parents to ask them if they were planned to help us with the wedding or with our new home and my MIL said no. After that she started to be very difficult. I invited her to the dress shopping and she made rude comments about my arms and how the skin in my back looked like a butt while I was trying my chosen wedding dress (I lost a lot of weight and I have loose skin that I only can have removed with surgery). She then started to reach out to our vendors to ask them things about the wedding, blackmail my boyfriend to not pay for the alcohol if he did not do something that she wanted. We wanted to keep the peace so I tried to include her to join us for my getting ready the day of my wedding and she refused saying that she wants to be with her friends and to have her own make up artist and does not want to have her makeup done my mine, she wants to have her friends around so get ready with her (like to have her own bridesmaids??? ).
For the mother and son dance she wants to dance two songs, when we mentioned the dance should last 2:30 minutes she wanted the DJ to make a mix of two songs, my boyfriend doesn’t really want to but he doesn’t want to fight her. Last week she called me a told that because she sweats a lot, she bought to dresses and will use one for the ceremony and one for the reception so she has two different looks. She casually bought the second dress in the same boutique my mom bought her dress after she saw it. Yesterday my wedding planners told me she was reaching out to our venue to request information regarding the hotel reservations, she wanted an early check in but didn’t wanted to pay and was asking if it could be added to the contract that my parents are paying, my wedding planner told her no and that she cannot reach out to the vendors and that they can only do changes like that with the ones that signed the contract (me).
I’ve had enough of her behavior and I requested my wedding planner to not let my MIL near me in my wedding day, she told me she could manage and that I will only see her at the family photos. I wanted to inform to my fiancee made decision and he supports me but it’s afraid this will mean another fight with her mom and that could damage their relationship. So AITA for not wanted my MIL near me at my wedding?
For info, his older brother is golden child and inlaws are paying for his wedding.
