AITA for leaving my girlfriends house and bailing on plans after her daughter had a meltdown at 7am
My girlfriend has a 12 year old daughter. Shes a handful. Im trying to be nice about it but honestly this kid runs the house and my girlfriend just lets it happen.
So Saturday night her daughter decides she wants to go horseback riding on Sunday morning at this place thats like two hours away. I wasnt thrilled about it. I dont ride horses. My girlfriend wasnt going to ride either. So the plan was basically drive two hours sit around for five or six hours while her kid rides then drive two hours back. Not exactly my idea of a good time but I agreed because I wanted to spend the day with my girlfriend.
Her daughter wanted to leave at the crack of dawn. Set her alarm for like 630. I told my girlfriend theres no way Im getting up that early on a Sunday for something I dont even want to do. She went into her daughters room took her phone and set her own alarm for 930. I figured ok cool we leave at a reasonable time I can deal with that.
Well her daughter woke up at 630 anyway. And thats when everything went sideways.
I could hear them. Her daughter turning the light on. My girlfriend turning it off. Her daughter yelling that they need to leave NOW. My girlfriend trying to get her to wait. This went on for a while and then it got quiet for maybe ten minutes.
I finally sat up and said its too early for this. My girlfriend got up and started getting her daughters stuff together and thats when the kid completely lost it. Screaming at her mom to hurry up. Telling her to shut up. Calling her names I dont even want to repeat. Stuff that made my jaw drop. And my girlfriend just took it. Didnt say a word back. Just kept getting things ready like this was normal.
And apparently it IS normal. Thats just how her daughter talks to her.
I told my girlfriend Im not going today. She looked hurt and I could tell she was upset because I did agree to go. But I couldnt sit in that house for another minute listening to a 12 year old talk to her mother like shes garbage.
As I was grabbing my keys her daughter was still going off. Screaming at her to get in the shower. Calling her things I cant even type out. And my girlfriend was just quietly getting ready like this was any other morning.
I left. That was days ago. Weve barely texted since. I think shes mad that I bailed on the plans. And yeah I did agree to go. But I agreed to a day trip not to being woken up at 630 by a screaming kid who speaks to her mother worse than most people speak to their enemies.
AITA?
