AITJ for telling my sister in law Im done driving her son to his sports program if he keeps treating me like garbage
My husbands brother and his wife have a 14 year old son. Long story but theyre both working opposite shifts right now and have been struggling to keep up with everything. We live close to them and I work remotely so when their son got accepted into this competitive travel sports program earlier this year they asked if I could help with transportation a few times a week since practices are about 40 minutes from their house but only like 10 from mine.
I said sure. I really didnt mind. I like the kid and I wanted to help.
That was five months ago and somehow I went from helping a few times a week to being his full time chauffeur. Im driving him there and back almost every single practice and game day. His parents have taken him maybe three times total. I rearrange my entire work schedule around this kids practice times. I have two kids of my own and Ive had to shuffle their stuff around to make it work.
But I kept doing it because family right.
Heres where it gets bad. This kids attitude has gotten progressively worse toward me. If Im even a few minutes late he gets in the car and doesnt say hi just immediately starts complaining. He told me to shut up once when I asked him how practice went. He demanded I stop at a drive thru on the way home and when I said not today he didnt speak to me for the entire ride and slammed my car door when he got out.
Last week I was ten minutes late picking him up because I was at a conference at my own kids school. He got in the car and started screaming at me about how I was going to make him late and I dont take his schedule seriously. I pulled over and told him he does not get to talk to me like that. I am doing him and his parents a favor and I deserve basic respect.
He told me I was being dramatic.
I called my SIL that night and told her what happened. She apologized and said yeah hes been like that at home too. I asked what consequences hes getting and she basically said they try but he throws a fit and they dont want to escalate things. Which means nothing is happening.
This weekend was the final straw. His parents asked my husband to drive him to a game on our one day off together. My husband said no we have plans. They guilt tripped him until he agreed. Then after the game they called asking us to pick him up too even though they were literally fifteen minutes closer to the field than we were.
I told my husband Im done. He agrees. But now Im scared that telling them is going to blow up because theyre going to act like were abandoning their kid when really were just done being disrespected by a teenager whose own parents wont discipline him.
AITJ?
