AITAH for choosing to fly instead of road tripping 18 hours each way with my parents?

AITAH for choosing to fly instead of road tripping 18 hours each way with my parents?

my family is planning a big birthday party for my grandpa, and it’s turned into more of a family reunion. said party is primarily organized by my mom (and me as her right hand). everything is coming together smoothly, except one thing: the party will be held in texas, and we live 18 hours away.

the trip in total will be four days – thursday to monday; we all work on tuesday. two days ago, my mom and i agreed to fly to texas, roughly around 400 each out of ohare (round trip, no stops, including a carry on). we told my dad this and he immediately said we were being “wasteful” and “wanted to feel special and better than every one” because we wanted to fly out instead of drive. i remove myself from the convo bc it’s completely ridiculous. to be frank, i find it insane to willingly drive 38 hours for a four day trip. especially when there is a party that ur in charge of organizing on saturday.

there’s a ton of back and fourth, ultimately my parents decided today that they will in fact be driving there because they thinks it’s cheaper than paying for a flight. they’re also arguing that they’ll “get there as the same time as the plane anyways”. i tell them that i will simply meet them there via plane. my dad then goes on to give me a lecture on how “i should learn to struggle sometimes, and that being humble is very important” he even brings up how he came to this country at 15 and wishes he spent more time with his family, and that i too will have wished that i did this long road trip with them because one day they won’t be here anymore. he also thinks i should save my money, because one day ill wish i did.

so here’s the thing:

this wouldn’t be our first road trip nor our first time flying, nor my first time flying ALONE. i’ve flown to meet my parents in different countries before

so ya. i’m flying. and if it makes me a pretentious, money spending, naive 23 year old, so be it. i fucking hate driving 18 hours in one sitting. not to mention, it’s a REALLY boring drive and they’ve never let me help out with said driving. AND my dad is constantly falling asleep at the wheel. AND it’ll be during tornado season. AND i can’t even lay out in the car because it’s a captains chair lay out.

EDIT: here’s one more detail that’s good for a laugh; they keep telling me that they’ll pick me up from the airport after i land…as in after their 18 hour drive they will pick me up in austin so i don’t have to pay…so much so that they’re already telling me to coordinate times w my other siblings who are flying in so they don’t “have to go to the airport more than once”. 1. no one has asked them for a ride 2. i will likely be splitting a uber w my siblings LOL???