AITA for talking to a friend about an anime?
Hi all, had a small argument over this so just want to know if I’m in the right or wrong.
Some context first, I’m 22 and have been watching anime since I was about 10 or so. As a teenager, I eventually became what most people would consider to be a “gooner”. Yeah, I used to beat it to anime. However, in August last year, I got with my current girlfriend who I had been good friends with for years prior. She knew what I was like in regards to anime and whatnot prior to us getting together and got with me despite detesting stuff like that.
Anyway, we talked about it and just before we got together, I quit watching or doing anything like that and have now been “clean” for 5+ months. She set boundaries with stuff like that and I respected it. Now, this is where the issue begins. She was aware that I had “done it” to characters from this anime so she wanted me to have nothing to do it and that was fair imo. I never brought it up to her, haven’t watched it since and I removed any figures I had from that anime. What started this argument was that last night, a friend of ours DM’d me saying that she had finally gotten round to watching it. We talked for about an hour just going on about the anime itself, nothing weird or sexual.
My girlfriend asked who I was messaging and I said I’m talking to [friend] about [anime]. She carried on as normal and then talked to me when we got in bed saying she was pissed off that I was talking to [friend] about shit I used to be weird with. I said nothing sexual or weird was mentioned and we were simply talking about the overall anime. She said she didn’t care and that she wanted me to have nothing to do with it at all. I told her that I know I used to be weird about it but it has been my favourite anime for nearly a decade and I didn’t just want to blank someone just for talking to me about it. I said I’m not going to rewatch it, mention it to her or buy anything from it (figures, etc), however I said it was unfair that I can’t even speak to anyone about it. I said I’d understand if it was an inherently sexual anime however the anime itself is normal. She wasn’t happy about it at all even though it was just me talking to a friend about it (again, nothing said between us was weird or sexual).
Imo, I don’t consider myself TBTA since I was only talking about it as an anime and nothing more. I don’t think I’m 100% right, but I also don’t think I’m in the wrong either. However, I do see where she’s coming from as well. Obviously I’ve quit with the shit I used to do, got rid of the figures and don’t really have anything to do with it now but I don’t believe it’s completely fair that she thinks I’m not allowed to even talk about it to friends.
