AITAH? Partners poor personal hygeing
Been seeing my other half for almost 15 years now. We have a kid who is 13. We dont live together any more because he would never clean up after himself. I worked full time, so does he yet im expected to keep the house. Which would be fine, except he smokes very heavily. And never washes. I dont smoke.
He would flick his cigarette ash on the floor and put the cigarette butt’s into energy drink cans and leave them lying on the floor. I now have my own place and things are better because when i confronted him on it, his familiy’s defence was “well he owns the house he can do what he likes”. Been this way for last 5 years as he blamed his lack of personal hygiene on his low mood and money worries and his job.
But his personal hygiene is still horrible. He smokes really heavy, we NEVER visit his home any more for last time I did i spend a full day cleaning it (and I have both a physical disability and Austim and ADHD).
And if i say ANYTHING to him about this he gets offended and leaves like a big kid having a tantrum. We NEVER ever have sex any more, partly because his horrible personal hygiene completely puts me off. But here’s the kicker…his family keep telling him I am the one with the problem.
That if I love him I should love him regardless. He tries to initiate affection by kissing me at inappropriate times (of i am cooking, or trying to clean, or sleeping in the middle of the night.) He says he loves me but he is just tired all the time. And its not like I dont understand depression, ive battled it for years and still had to pull myself through for the kids and others. So why is it ok for him to be like this and not me? AITA?
