Am I the AH for buying toothpaste?
I (20f) and my partner (25m) have been together for a year and 2 months. When it comes to brushing teeth I have been very neglectful of them, I stopped brushing them around the age of 8 a couple months after my mother passed away.
But in my early teens I started to only brush them occasionally, but I hated this icy minty feeling that you get after it happens, it irritates me so much to the point my eyes water, it was very overwhelming, which made me put it off even more.
Until I was 18 when my Occupational therapist suggested a brand called HiSmile, Also around that time, my gums started to bleed as well (and they haven’t stopped and it is too expensive for me to go to the dentist) so I went online and ordered a couple of HiSmiles toothpaste and I found brushing my teeth a lot easier since using them.
Now to last night, I found myself getting low on toothpaste and I decided to order some more. My partner saw and said, “great! we now only have $50 for the week.” He gets paid Wednesday and it was Saturday. He spent $300 on vapes during a time when our state was cracking down on Vapes.
I told him it was an essential and I was running low, He said that he had Colgate toothpaste, I told him why I couldn’t use Colgate and that it also belonged to his former roommate but he said, “deal with it”
But of some background info on the former roommate, he said that she was very abusive and had violent tendencies, but when I met her, I never saw any of that, but she does tell a lot at him, but never at me, she also said to us a lot to never touch her stuff and I respected that.
I told him to take an ice bath and see how he likes it, it was the closest comparison I could think of, he said that he hates ice baths and then asked if I like being broke. (Rich coming from a guy who spent $300 on vapes) I told him again that this toothpaste is an essential and that I was running low.
He asked again if I liked being broke and to use his former roommate’s Colgate toothpaste. At that point my gums started to bleed and I went to the bathroom to wash out the blood in my mouth, he then followed me and asked me again if I liked being broke, I told him again that I am not using his roommates toothpaste.
He went to his room and had a sulk. Am I the AH?
I forgot to mention that I am autistic (which he knows I am autistic), which might explain why I found the icy mint sensation after brushing my teeth overwhelming, but I was also told that non neuro divergent people also find that sensation overwhelming too.
