AITA for not excusing my classmates weird behavior?
So I (21F) am currently in college. My school is mostly science focused but i’m in the social sciences so my program is small. Because of that, there’s only around 20 people I regularly have classes with and we all are at least familiar with each other.
One of these people is K (21M). Now this started because I’d met him briefly at an event in the Fall so when I found out I had a class with him I sat by him without thinking much about it. All I knew was he was big on talking frequently in class but he seemed pretty normal.
We ended up exchanging numbers explicitly for a class assignment, reviewing each others midterm papers. Now the problems started when he began texting me about more casual things. At first I didn’t totally care but he kept going and started to message me at odd hours (11pm, 1am, etc.). He also started waiting for me after class and following me where I was going, usually my next class.
I ended up telling one of my guy friends who also knew of K that it was making me uncomfortable. This friend, L (22M) said that I was overreacting and K was just “socially awkward”. I was a little upset at that but brushed it off because I thought he might’ve been right. After a few weeks of the texting (never anything explicitly bad besides the odd hours and frequency) I’d stopped responding to him.
After I did that he came up to me in our schools dining hall asking me why I wasn’t texting him back which was my final straw. I ended up being very upfront and texting him saying I wasn’t comfortable with him messaging me or being around me anymore and told him we weren’t friends. After that he moved seats in our class and wouldn’t even look at me, so I did feel a little bad. Telling L and a few other friends later they said I wasn’t comfortable too harsh for what I said to him and that I could’ve tried to explain to him how I felt instead of calling him out and cutting him off. I do feel kind of bad since K didn’t exactly do anything wrong, so am i the asshole?
