I’m a stay-at-home mom with two children under two, so I’m home most of the day and already stretched thin.
My roommate and her pre-teen daughter live with my husband and me. The daughter is very capable when it benefits her—she can climb over baby gates and get ice cream from the freezer—but other times suddenly “can’t” do basic things.
When they first moved in, they ate whatever they wanted, however much they wanted, from our pantry without asking. I had to set boundaries around our food. Even after that, the daughter would take handfuls of snacks at a time. Once she took an entire sheet of cookies in front of us, and her mom said nothing.
They often spend most (sometimes all) of the day in their room with food and snacks, leaving crumbs and trash everywhere. They clean nothing. Every mess is left for me.
I’ve been locked out of my own house multiple times because they lock the garage door and go to bed, despite me asking repeatedly to leave it unlocked when I’m out due to a key situation.
Dirty dishes are left in the sink without checking the dishwasher. Drinks are left half full on tables. I regularly find food (including chocolate ice cream) smeared on the floor and table.
The guest room they stay in is filthy—trash everywhere. Their cat stays in the room, litter gets everywhere, and it has even ended up in my bed that they are using.
To add to this, the roommate is someone who was my best friend before moving in. Since the moment she moved in, she has been distant, and our friendship feels very different, which makes addressing these issues even harder.
We are set to move out in May when our lease is up. I want them to move out before us so I can clean properly, avoid leaving a mess for the rental company, and have space to slowly pack and sort our home while caring for two very young children.
However, my husband told them they could stay until essentially the last day we are allowed to be in the house. I feel overwhelmed, taken advantage of, and disrespected in my own home.
My husband thinks this isn’t a big deal and that I’m overreacting.
AITA for wanting them out before we move?
