AITA for not telling my best friend his girlfriend flirted with me?

AITA for not telling my best friend his girlfriend flirted with me?

So this happened about three weeks ago and I (24M) still feel weird about it. My best friend Jake (25M) threw a birthday party at his place, maybe 30 people, pretty casual. His girlfriend Amy (23F) and I have always been friendly in a normal way, no weirdness ever.

At some point in the evening she cornered me in the kitchen while Jake was outside with other people. She was definitely a few drinks in and started saying stuff like how she’s always found me attractive and that Jake “doesn’t have to know everything.” I was uncomfertable, told her I wasn’t interested, and kind of just walked back outside. She acted completely normal for the rest of the night.

I didn’t tell Jake. My reasoning was that Amy was drunk, it was a one time thing, and I didn’t want to blow up his relationship over one weird moment. I figured if it happened again I would say something.

Fast forward two days – Jake came to me asking if anything happened and I told him the truth. He was upset, not just at Amy, but at me for staying quiet.

He said I should have told him immediately and that by waiting I was choosing her comfort over his right to know. I see his point but I also genuinely thought I was protecting him from unnecessary pain over something that might have been a drunk mistake.

Now things are awkward between us and I don’t know if I handled this wrong. AITA?

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