AITJ for refusing to give up my schedule and ruining our friendship?
I work in a BPO setup where schedules are based strictly on performance ranking. The higher your stats, the earlier you get to pick your schedule. Aside from incentives getting my preferred off and time is what I look forward to. I’ve been grinding for months, overtime, extra effort and sacrificing sleep just to secure my scorecard because of incentives and i really wanted a specific schedule this cycle.
I ranked #1.
For once, I felt proud. Like all the stress and burnout actually paid off.
Now here’s the problem. My friend, we’re teammates and super close outside work ranked somewhere in the middle. She wants the exact same schedule I’ve been aiming for. She told me she needs it more because of personal reasons and asked me to just pick something else so she could grab it when her turn comes.
I told her no.
I tried to explain that I worked really hard for this ranking and that the whole point of the system is to reward performance. I didn’t step on anyone. I didn’t manipulate stats. I just did my job well. But she said I was being selfish and that real friends look out for each other.
Now things are tense. She’s cold at work. Our other teammates know about it, and I can feel the subtle judgment. Like I chose a schedule over a friendship. She even said, “I just didn’t expect you to be like this.”
And now I’m spiraling wondering if I actually am the villain here. On one hand, this is a competitive environment. The ranking system exists for a reason. On the other hand, she’s my friend and she’s clearly hurt.
AITJ for standing my ground? Or is she crossing a line by expecting me to give up something I earned
