AITA for being a bitch to my partners (M 28) female coworker (F24) because she is openly flirtatious to my partner despite knowing he has been with me for 2 years.
My partner is generally quite polite to literally everyone and im not sure if its coz shes retarded or just a whore in general but she seems to think it means something. She is a “supervisor” there and he does not report to her but their departments are next door. She emails him from her work email late at night to the point it has caused arguments because she asks for a prompt reply despite it being outside work hours. He does not hide his phone or anything. But he keeps brushing it off as her being nice because he is helpful to her. But she does other things like got annoyed that he invited me to work drinks so I could meet his bosses last Friday. He always invites me.
Whether its Christmas or someone leaving, he brings me as a plus one as do other coworkers who bring their husbands or wives. But I was watching from a far. I could see her watching him and he was on his phone across from her not talking but actually messaging me asking for my ETA.
She went to scoot closer and then because I messaged back and said here now he stood up, said something to his boss and then started looking for me. His face lit up when he saw me and he brushed past her. She was watching the entire time and I was death staring her. I brought this to my partners attention and pointed at her and said loudly “is that the one who emails you outside of work hours” and she glared at me. Now, it gets better because my entire family are lawyers and I am a paralegal who works at an employment and union law firm.
I spoke to her 1 on 1 and made her aware that my partner is not required to do anything outside of his working hours and to back off. I told her it is illegal and he has a right to disconnect. I also confronted her about sending personal messages with love hearts to him like ‘thank you for doing this, it really helped ” my partner never responds. I told her it was unprofessional, that he is taken and that I can understand him not wanting to jeopardise his career by saying something but that I was not afraid of her or the company he worked for and i DARED her to retaliate. She was defensive the whole time and said workplace banter and flirtation is normal and that i should not be insecure. She admitted to having a crush when they first met but that now she wants him as a friend. I said she will have him as a coworker.
I then told her boss that she was doing this. Her boss looked uncomfortable and apologised to me and said it was unacceptable.
She quit the next month. She had left a note on his desk apologising for any discomfort she had caused and admitted she could not work with someone she had feelings for.
But since then my partner has been upset and said that she was just young and everyone makes mistakes and feels like I should have just left it.
He said the next Monday she was rude and asked him why he told me she was flirting or nice and that she thought he was interested in her. He said he was confused why she felt that way given they only talk about work and that he has a picture of me, him and our dog Dougie on his desk.
She has changed her number but keeps repeatedly adding my boyf on insta and fb even tho he declines.
