AITA for not going to visit my mother and her husband?
So years ago my parents got divorced in large part because of my mother having an affair with her current husband Tim. After they divorced I went over 6 years without contacting or communicating with my mother until we reconciled through my sister during the holiday season a little over 3 years ago. Our relationship ended up recovering to the point where my wife and I ended up inviting my mom to our wedding last year. The main issue that has persisted though is my relationship or lack thereof with her new husband Tim.
When my mother and I reconciled, one of the boundaries I gave her was that I wanted nothing to do with that man and would never interact or meet with him. She fought this at first however eventually she agreed to the terms although she has tried to encourage my wife and I to meet him a few times since then.
When talking with my mom the other day she seemed frustrated that my wife and I have not gone up to visit her at her and Tim’s home since we reconciled despite her having gone to visit my wife and I several times at our home (My wife and I live in a different part of the state) . I stated that we would be willing to go visit her so long as Tim was not there when we visited. After hearing that she said it was time for me to accept that Tim is apart of the family now and that accepting him would make everything easier for everyone. I told her that I would not make the trip if Tim was there and would be maintaining the same position I’ve had on Tim. In addition, if she kept trying to push him on me I would cut contact with her again.
So AITA for maintaining the same position and refusing to visit my mother and her new husband?
