I’m 16F, 80s-90s student always. Teachers tell me im charismatic, funny, kind and creative. I love physical labour (building decks, fences, flooring, working on motorcycles, cars, snowmobiles, and the gym), however, I have very low motivation due to my mental health issues. sister(14F) younger [comes in later]My father(58M) is a very hard worker, and is very proud of his youth hockey playing and determination [this comes in later]. I’m good at hockey, I just don’t care. This drives him up the wall because of a story he always tells about hitchhiking to hockey and all these other storys i’m not going to share but basically the gist is he would do anything to go to hockey. Therapists and mum have all told him to stop telling the stories to me bc they stress me out and he is a differant person than I am. People has always said “woah, OP is going places” and things like that, I have some goals for myself and know im not an astrophysicist or anything but I still think I’m skilled in my interests and a smart kid. When I was a kid he would agree with them, but now hes been making faces or little comments to let them know im not doing well academically (which isnt true, I’m top of all my classes, and get amazing grades- better than when i was younger, i’m in all academic classes etc). On christmas 2025 my gramma and her boyfriend of 40 years came over and while mum, sister, dad and gramma were making breakfast, grammas boyfriend said smt along the lines of “oh well, yk OP the oldest kid is always the favourite!” (im oldest) and dad cuts in saying “not true.” implying that my sister was his favourite. Hes been saying things like this alot latley. “sister is my favourite” “i love her more” “well OP, ur sister tries harder in hockey” etc. these things have really started to hurt me. I was able to ignore it because hes also the youngest so maybe its a biased joke. now im not so sure. then ALSO on christmas day my gramma asked “OP, what program do you think you will do after highschool” I said I wanted to go to McMaster for Cognative Neuroscience. My dad then proceeds to laugh the most agressive laugh ive ever heard so i said “whats ur problem?” and he said “ur grades are not good enough for that! ur will be living in my basment until 30 when we get an arranged marriage to get you out of our house, but at the same time i dont care because ill be dead before you graduate.” and I said “they r higher than what they need to be for the program so you can shut your fuc41ng mouth and think before talking to me like that again. Oh and by the way, you hardly even graduated high school” and walked away. We didnt talk for a few days and when we did talk it was breif and cold. To be honest I don’t overly care if you guts say this is wrong for yelling at someone better than me who I need to respect. Im just wondering If it was an asshole thing to do.