AITJ for breaking up with my boyfriend because he wants me to buy him a car
my mom passed last year and it wrecked me. she left a small inheritance to me and my brother nothing huge but enough to be meaningful. i told my boyfriend because at the time i thought we were building a future together.
first thing out of his mouth was not “are you okay” not “let’s save it” not even “that’s for your security.” it was “we can finally get me a car.” not us a car. not our future. his car.
i brushed it off at first because grief makes you second guess everything. but then he started sending me listings daily and talking about monthly payments like my mom’s death was a financing plan. when i brought up maybe using it for a down payment on a place or saving for our wedding he said a car was more important and the wedding could wait.
that’s when it clicked. he saw my loss as an upgrade for his lifestyle.
i told him that money was the last thing my mom would ever want used to fund someone else’s priorities while our future was an afterthought. he got mad and said i was being selfish and that couples share everything.
so i shared a breakup.
kept the inheritance, put most of it in savings, helped my brother with a small emergency, and started therapy. turns out the real thing my mom left me was clarity.
AITJ for leaving him when he cared more about a car than a life with me
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