AITA for not wanting my husband to travel for a wedding a month before my due date?
TLDR: my husband is in a wedding that is exactly a month before my due date. I think it’s too close and don’t want him to go
Hi so my husband’s best friend moved away a few years ago. We have travelled together to see him once, and even before being pregnant, it was a tough trip (length of time for the direct flight was 14 hours). I can’t remember which came first, finding out my due date or finding out the date of the wedding, but basically the wedding is exactly 1 month before my due date.
My husband is one of the groomsmen in the wedding. I originally said to him that I would be ok to have him go for 3 days, but now, due to pressure from friends, his trip is 6 days long so he can spend time with his friend while out there. I’ve expressed my concerns because A. I’m already having extreme pains to the point my doctor is having me see physical therapists and chiropractors (I’m only in my second trimester). We have also had friends that have given birth a month early, and some that go past their due date. B. If this wedding was in state, I wouldn’t mind as much, but within 14 hours, a lot can happen.
Maybe it’s selfish as well, but I’m afraid of trying to communicate with timezone differences, as well as obviously it’s a wedding so I know there will be a lot of drinking. I’m also afraid of him just not paying attention to his phone because he’s drunk/partying with friends.
I’ve pointed out that there could be a chance that if something happened, he may not be able to get back in time to be there with me. I’m afraid about him going, but also, if he goes, trying to impose rules like saying, I don’t want him to get too drunk, he needs to have his phone on and loud in case I need to reach out in an emergency, always keeping an eye out on alternate flights home, etc. we have had a few arguments so far about this, but AITA for feeling like he shouldn’t be going?
