My girlfriend got upset at me for liking her birthday gift to me. AITAH?
Using a throw away account just to keep things separate from my main account.
Hi Reddit. I wanted to post my dilemma here just to get someone else’s opinions on this matter and maybe some advice on what to do.
To start off, I (32 M) had my birthday a few days ago. My girlfriend of one year (29) and I just decided to celebrate it at home, basically just ordered some food for dinner and watched a movie together. After the movie, I got up and said that I would maybe play some games for a bit while she took her bath and gets ready for bed, when she suddenly told me she got me a present.
Now for some context I’m a fan of Fromsoft games like Dark Souls but I haven’t gotten around to playing the game Elden Ring yet. I know that it’s already been a few years since it’s been released but money has been tight and I’m saving up for a car, so I haven’t gotten the chance to buy it. My girlfriend doesn’t play games but does know about this because I may have hinted a bit that I wanted to play it for while now.
When she gave me her gift, which was very clearly a case for a game, I got a bit excited thinking she had gotten me Elden Ring. But when I opened it, it wasn’t Elden Ring but a game called Code:Vein for the PS4.
Now I’m not gonna lie, at first I was kinda disappointed because it wasn’t what I was expecting but I grew up poor and my parents taught me to always be thankful for any gifts I received. I told my girlfriend thank you, got up, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek.
Ok so now comes the weird part. After kissing her on the cheek, she gave me this kinda surprised look and asked “How do you like my gift?” to which I was honest and replied “I mean it wasn’t what I was expecting but it looks kinda fun, so yeah thanks.” Again she gave me a suprised look.
So I went on to play the game (I have both a PS5 and Ps4) while she took her bath and did her nightly routine. It had been a while since I had played on the PS4 but after about half an hour of playing I was actually kinda digging the game a bit. It was basically kinda like Darksouls except in a very anime kinda style.
About an hour in to playing my gf came down to tell me the bathroom was free and I could take a bath. Now I don’t remember the entire conversation word for word but it went something like this.
“Oh yeah sure, just give me five minutes to finish what I’m doing and save my progress.”
“So you really do like the game? Isn’t it like an old game?”
“Yeah, but it’s actually kinda fun. You picked a good one babe, thanks.”
“So you’re really not upset that I didn’t get you that game you wanted?!”
“Yeah I wanted Elden Ring but this is good too? Why are you getting angry? Its your gift.”
At that point she kinda had this frustrated look on her face and, although she wasn’t shouting, she had raised her voice by a bit. I stared at her and asked her what was up. After a some back and forth between us she then begrudgingly admitted that she purposely got me the wrong game to get back at me because on her birthday I had gotten her the wrong gift. On her birthday I had gotten her a bottle of perfume but while I had chosen the correct brand of perfume, it apparently wasn’t the exact one that she wanted.
Now in my defense, during that time I did asked her flat out what she wanted she told me the brand of perfume but on the day I was buying it there where tons of bottles to choose from and when I called to ask which one she wanted all she said was “You should know what scents I like, surprise me”. When I did give it to her on her birthday she just smiled at me and said she loved it, so I honestly didn’t question anything.
So she then devised a plan so “I would feel what she felt” and thought that I would get upset at her for getting the wrong game but didn’t expect that I would actually enjoy it.
Honestly I’m not really even that upset at her for what she did and (this might be where I’m an asshole) I even kinda laughed at her bad attempt at getting back at me when she explained it. I’ve also already apologised that I got her the wrong perfume and even offered to buy the right one for her on my next payday but now she’s still mad over it and is calling me an asshole and isn’t talking to me.
So Reddit, am I the asshole? I’m not really sure because I guess I’m treating the situation kinda lightly but maybe I’m not seeing things from her perspective. Any advice?
Edit: yes guys, I know you can play Ps4 games on the Ps5 but I have sentimental attachments to my Ps4. Its the first console I bought with my own money so I still play on it from time to time. Since she got me a Ps4 game I thought why not play it on the Ps4 since I had it 😂
