WIBTA if I told my husband we shouldn’t go on vacation?
My in-laws booked a vacation next month and I want to tell my husband we shouldn’t go!
We are moving back to our home town in two days and my in-laws decided to plan a vacation to Tennessee for 5 days in a month. We were on the phone with my BIL last night (who we will be living with) and he said he would go ahead and book the Airbnb before the slots fill up.
I don’t think we will have the funds since we are in the process of moving and will be job hunting for the next two weeks. You also can’t call out for 5 days when you’ve just started working. I want to tell my husband that we can go at a later time after we’ve saved up a bit and have our own vehicle but I don’t know how to phrase it in a way that he will agree with. We will we driving there but gas is still expensive in itself.
We have a lot going on, especially since we need to get our son caught up on vaccines and get him on WIC, Food stamps, Medicaid, and get him a Social Security card. Going on vacation now would just slow the process of getting established and, frankly, it’s a waste of money when you barely have any to spare. The Airbnb alone is over $800 which we will be splitting but we don’t know who all will be pitching in yet and all the things they are wanting to do when we get down there. We started talking about vacation last week and this sudden planning seems rushed and not well thought out.
We just don’t have the money and this couldn’t be a worse time to go on a vacation.
Update: I just spoke with my husband and told him all my concerns and that we couldn’t go on a trip right now. I also told him that I didn’t appreciate everyone making plans around us when we are expected to go as well. We should be included in the planning. He said he would talk to his brother (basically implying that he will tell him we can’t go and that they can either go without us or move the trip to a later date). I’m honestly surprised with his response since he’s never been this understanding when it comes to finances and spending. I will update again after he talks to his brother.
