AITAH choosing my stepson over my daughter and telling her to stay with her dad and stepmom who CUT HER OFF
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My 21-year-old daughter has been living with her dad for the past year, but yesterday she told me she wanted to come back and stay with me because she wants to be closer to her friends.That is not the reason, the reason is because her stepmom cut her off due to her behaviour and her father told her she was not welcome in their house.
She left my house because she did not want to follow rules and thought it would be better at her dads place until she got cut off. Her stepmom has told me that she never wants to see my daughter again and that she and my ex are being a united front.
I told her she could come back. During the time she left I moved into my husband’s house and he has 3 bedrooms for his kids, one for his son, the biggest one, another two for his twin daughters with his ex wife and next year we will be building a new room for our youngest daughter who is 2. I have three kids now, my oldest daughter, my daughter who got cut off by her father and my youngest daughter. My ex and I had our oldest daughter when we were teen parents and we now have a granddaughter.
I told her that she would have to stay in one of my stepdaughters’ rooms while my stepdaughter is away for a couple of months as an exchange student in Europe until we figure out a plan. and my daughter said that wasn’t fair and asked why she could not get my stepsons room, the biggest one. I told her that under NO circumstances would I EVER kick out my stepson from his room because she “wanted” it, so I told her if she wants to stay here, she either stays in her stepsisters room until we find an alternative or stay on the couch.
She still insisted that I give her my stepsons room so my husband suggested that she can pay rent for his son’s room if she wants it so bad, otherwise a room or the couch is available, simple as that. Tell me why this little girl had the audacity to get disrespectful with me, call me by my real name, and say I wasn’t a good mother for not forcing my stepson to give up his room. I am a pretty understanding person, but I do not think she has a right to tell me how to run my household and demand things from minors just for her. So I told her if she INSISTS on this, she can continue living with her dad or she won’t be welcome back here. AITA
