AITAH…. I 51F always go out of my way for my husband 55M if its Valentine’s Day, his Birthday or Christmas.
Doesn’t matter I always go above and beyond. I take him to something special for his birthday usually a hockey game and this last birthday I even let him pick out the most expensive jersey he wanted and bought it for him. Now let’s talk about my birthdays. Its right after Valentines Day and my whole life no matter who my partner has been it gets combined as a 1 holiday.
Last year we didn’t do anything special for my birthday. He gave me a card. No cake, nothing. Ok fine. But this year I told him I want to do something fun. Also we don’t usually do anything I unless I plan it. He hasn’t said anything per usual about if we are doing anything. So we were just chatting and he brought up something HE wants to go do that weekend. He knows its not something I have any interest in doing. But again it something HE wants to do and I feel like TAH for not want to do that on my Birthday weekend especially if we aren’t doing anything i want to do. AITAH because my feelings are now kind of hurt?
Edit: I did also want to note that I had to him profusely that I wanted to this one specific thing for my birthdaybut it happened to fall on a weekday, this past Wed. I had looked at tickets close to the date and it was sold out. He said quote you should’ve bought the tickets when they were available. That really hurt because he could’ve also bought them. Thank you all for your comments. He isn’t the type of person I can sit down and have a conversation like this with. He gets very defensive really fast and some how I end up feeling worse. I hate fighting and any convo like this would end with an argument. I’ll probably just stop doing stuff for him all together.
