MIL Walked In Without Knocking, Saw Her Daughter-In-Law In Underwear—Now Wants An Apology
This happened yesterday morning at 9 in the morning, I f33 was in the kitchen eating breakfast wearing my regular underware. Suddenly I heard gasping sounds coming towards me, I turned and saw mother and sister in law yelling about what I was wearing. I was in utter shock and just froze in my seat.
My husband was asleep at the time and he must’ve heard his mom and sister scream because he ran downstairs asking what’s going. his mom started ranting loudly about what an appropriate scene she and her daughter saw. I’m still sitting in shock when my husband started yelling at me to go put something on quickly.
I went upstairs while his mom kept yelling after me calling me shameless and inappropriate I then heard my husband say it won’t happen again. I was so mad, I put a coat on and went downstairs and started arguing with my mother in law. I told her she shouldn’t have come over without notice but turns out my husband told her to come over at 9 to discuss a family crisis. My mother in law said I was in the wrong for walking around half n__ed knowing she has a key and might show up any minute.
I told her it’s my home and she said it’s her son’s home too. we argued and my husband told me to knock it off and apologize but I refused and went bavk upstairs. then after his mom and sister left he called me childish and inappropriate. I tried to explain my side but he said what’s done’s done and he promised his mom that I will apologize but I said I will never apologize and she’s gonna have to wait for decades for that. He got upset and called me disreslectful towards my guests. and mother in-law was technically a guest so…
he’s still nagging me for an apology to his mom via email to get this over with. AITA for not apologizing? I’ll apologize if it turns out that I’m TA here.
edit – Wow, So there’s too many comments here and I can’t respond to all of them, however!!! I jus saw some info questions – And I’ll answer them below.
* First and formost, I’m not american (I wish lol) you guys probably figured this out by my horrific grammar lol but I did my best.
* Mother in-law has a copy of the key, After what happened I told my husband to tell his mom to give the key back but he said no and that he won’t punish her for something I DID.
* Yes, he tends to take her side more often. She’s super conservative and does not like me very much.
* Oh and one more thing. this “country” I live in (not my country originally) treats women as “possessions” e.g instead of calling me by my name they would say “Eric’s wife” or “his woman” which is rude and offensive. another e.g is that there are lots of places women can not access and seeing a woman drive can be seen as an unusual thing for them. the reason I married my husband was that he was different from them. Truth be told, I’ve been feeling o__rwhelmed and depressed lately and mom isn’t near so I could visit and vent to her.
