AITAH For dropping my friend of 8 years after the way I’ve been treated?
I (19 M) have been friends with this girl for 8 years, let’s call her Maya.
Maya and I have been best friends since we were young and we did everything together. Her family always invited me over even if my friend didn’t, (which she was still okay with). So for the context of the story we were the closest.
During high-school she realized she was into girls which I always supported, and encouraged. I am a straight guy and unfortunately we have dated a few of the same people, because some of the girls ive dated go to girls after me which is unfortunate in itself lmao, but regardless I have also dated a few girls she has dated first. One of these girls that went to her first was a girl named Hailey. Hailey dated Maya but eventually they broke up, at the time I was good friends with Hailey and with that she came to me for help and stuff after the break up which I did help with while staying mutual to both of them. They ended up staying friends and after a while of talking to Hailey I realized I had feelings, and she did as well. Ultimately we chose to date each other and we did off and on for most of our freshman and into sophomore year. A lot of those times we ended on good terms hoping to stay friends which we usually did. However the last time we dated she went around talking bad about how I had a lot of issues and emotional baggage, and she was immediately talking to this other guy.
After about a week of those things happening, I found out that my best friend Maya was making out with her and didn’t tell me until someone else confronted me about it, at first I was livid because I trusted Maya and for her to do that I felt betrayed. I told Maya we needed to stop being friends because I was hurt.
After about 2ish months I reached out and apologized telling her I definitely overreacted about the whole situation and I was sorry for how I treated her and that I hoped we could go back to being friends, and Maya reluctantly agreed. So things went back to the way they were.
At the very end of our Sophmore year I started dating this girl named Presley. Presley and I dated for about 9 months until I realized that I wasn’t treating her the way that I should be and that it was rooted to some personal issues I needed to resolve, so I ended things in a polite way but she didnt take the break up very well. Presley was being very petty about the whole situation even going as far as reaching out to my parents about it, amd even spreading bad rumors about me. After a while of dealing with this I had a friend come up to me and tell me about a week or 2 after the break up that once again Maya had made out with another ex of mine (Presley) all because she was “bored”. But this time Maya didn’t date her before I did.
So again I told Maya to stop being my friend because what she did was horrible and felt like a stab in the back. But as the first time around went, I missed my best friend so I reached out once more, and I apologized for overreacting and the way i handled the whole situation. Then things went back to the way they were until now.
A few weeks ago Maya had told me she had been super stressed out about a lot of stuff. Her and her girlfriend who strangely enough is an ex of mine but is also one of my bestfriends so I dont care like I did with others, they had been having some issues with communication. Another bit of context was I got friendzoned by a girl Maya was sorta friends with named Nancy. Maya was planning a group trip to a big city nearby us that we would be carpooling to to go shopping. Originally it was Me, Maya, and 2 of our mutual guys friends. During one of our classes I asked her about the trip and she said she had invited more people, upon asking who she told me that Nancy would be carpooling with us even though she knew I got friendzoned. I told Maya I might have to cancel partially because I had to help my mom with some house work but also because I didnt wanna go on this trip with the person who friendzoned me.
Later that day, one of me and Maya’s friends told me she walked into their class talking bad about how shitty it was for me to cancel on her even though I always complain and cry about how lonely I am and have no friends which mind you is only partially the truth I usually complain that I feel like I don’t get invited to much anymore. Anyways I confronted Maya about this and she told me about how I was so mentally exhausting and how I was adding to her stress. So finally I told her that it would be best if we stopped being friends because it seems like im only making things worse in her life and shes better off without my drama and stuff.
Its been about 2 weeks and I only briefly talked to her after she reached out wanting to know if we could talk about it maturely, which I agreed to but I told her that I already made my decision and said what I needed to. After that she told me she just needed a sec and hasn’t spoken to me since. I also hoped that doing this would give her some sort of rude awakening and she would realize how ive been treated and how I feel which so far has not been the case.
So AITAH For dropping my friend of 8 years after the way ive been treated?
