I (28F) have a younger brother (26M) who grew up with a very different financial experience than I did. He was the golden child whereas I was the “you’re so mature for your age” child. #iykyk
My parents paid for his college, let him stay with them rent free for years, and still step in whenever life gets too hard for him. I moved out at 18, worked my ass off, and accepted that instant ramen and thrifted clothes were fine.
Recently, I got my own small and humble apartment. It’s not much and pretty much empty at this point but it’s mine and I love it.
Last week, my brother called me and demanded that I give him (not lend) a few thousand bucks because he was behind on rent and might get evicted.
I politely told him that I couldn’t as I was already on a tight budget, saving up for furniture, and trying to build an emergency fund.
He immediately lost it and told me I owe him because:
- We’re family
- I’m doing better than him
- He let me play with his toys when we were kids (which is not true btw)
I said that I can sympathize with him given the unfortunate situation, but I seriously cannot afford to give away any money considering my circumstances. I suggested that he ask our parents, as they would surely help him out.
He got mad and said they already do enough and now it was my turn. He even accused me of being selfish and greedy, even though he’s the one who never even gets me a Christmas present.
I must add that he takes his girlfriend out on fancy dates and buys her stuff I could never afford. Apparently rent just didn’t make the budget.
The saddest part is that even my parents later called and took his side. They insisted that I chip in being the big and responsible sister, as it was the least I could do.
I’ve been ignoring their calls and texts for days but I feel on edge and guilty.
So… AITA?
