AITA for ❤️ 🌕 missing my mom’s funeral?
My mom recently passed away while living with my younger sister. I was present during Mom’s final moments, and am grateful that my hero and angel is now at peace.
My mom had stage one cancer last year. Her team of doctors believed it was curable. My sister, however, encouraged her to follow a holistic cancer therapy recommended by a chiropractor. He prescribed juice,daily coffee enemas, and periodic blood tests.
I told my mom the therapy was considered ineffective. She replied that she would try it until she knew for sure.
Last October and again in March, the chiropractor told Mom she was nearing remission, because his blood tests showed a miraculous reduction in cancer cells. Mom excitedly told many people about her results, and gave his number to anyone who asked.
In April, Mom had a stroke, yet my sister, who was her health care proxy, refused to bring her to the hospital. After finally admitting her to the hospital in May, the doctors recommended hospice, because imaging tests revealed the cancer had spread throughout her entire body.
My sister told me not to visit her home while my mom was in hospice there. We disagree on politics, philosophy, and most everything else.
I defiantly made the trip, and spent several days by Mom’s bedside, telling her sweet things like how much I loved her. I tried very hard not to anger my sister, yet almost got kicked out when I told her my dogs had better end-of-life care.
My sister prevented Mom from seeking proper care for over a year, and further denied the comfort medications prescribed by hospice, despite her flailing and tears. Instead she forced her to eat apple sauce, thinking this would restore Mom’s health, but it ultimately led to her last breath.
My other siblings are in denial. They are anti-vax, pro-insurrectionists, who blame the hospital for Mom’s death. And they all reminded me, this was Mom’s choice.
My sister has planned a celebration of life, in Mom’s hometown, where I still live.
I will not be attending, because I will not endure the misinformation that will be shared at the event. And even though I was invited, I was warned not to share my story.
I’m choosing to celebrate Mom’s life by reporting the chiropractor for practicing oncology without a license. I am choosing to spare my sister. I will not report her and her family for elder abuse, because it would destroy what’s left of my dear Mom’s family.
I send them peace, love and blessings from afar until I can actually begin to speak with them again.
Your thoughts?
