AITAH for not treating my estranged daughter the same as my son?
I have 2 kids with my ex wife a 20 year old son and a 25 year old daughter, we got divorced 10 years ago after she cheated on me with her brother’s boss for over a year, not only was she cheating but I also found out our then 15 year old daughter knew the entire time about it and she was even helping her cover it, and she was mad at me when I decided to get a divorce, by the time the divorce was finalised she was already 16 and she chose to stay with her mom and her now husband, and after everything she did to me I didn’t try to go after her because I was hurt and mad.
I loved my daughter and I always thought I treated her good and that we had a good relationship, yes she was a kid back then but she was 15-16 not 8, she should have known cheating was bad by then. When she was 18 we went no contact with each other.
My son on the other hand hated his mom for breaking up the family and once he was 16 he decided to stay with me full time, and I treated him good.
After he finished high school he said he wanted to take a year or two off to really think about what he wanted in college and that’s normal in our country, it’s actually not common at all to go straight to college, he worked and traveled and just lived for two years and he finally started college this, he’s studying law and wants to become a lawyer, and I believe in him, he’s really smart, he worked and saved a good amount of money but it still wasn’t enough for the whole thing so I offered to help him pay for the rest including his rent, I have a good job that pays well and I’m single so he’s my only priority now.
He isn’t close to his sister either but somehow she found out I’m helping him pay for college and she wants me to help her too, she went straight after high school and she graduated two years ago but she’s still paying off student loans, I don’t want to because I’m not a bank account and I haven’t spoken to her outside of this for 7 years, and she never apologised for what she did to me.
She keeps complaining and begging saying it’s only fair that she gets the same help as her brother but I don’t think so, she’s an adult who I don’t have any relationship with, I don’t have to do anything to her anymore.
Am I the asshole here?
