AITA for not letting my bridesmaid change out of her bridesmaid dress after the ceremony?
I (27 F) am getting married in 6 weeks and I was asked by one of my bridesmaids if they could change out of their bridesmaid’s dress into a black dress after the ceremony because she’s uncomfortable in color.
A little background, all of my bridesmaids are wearing a dusty blue. I allowed them to pick whatever style of dress they wanted; my request is that they all wear the blue and length needs to be long. The reason she feels uncomfortable is because of the color of her hair and skin tone on top of her thyroid issues that just arose and causes her to gain weight.
She wants to be respectful but she is uncomfortable in the color.
I told her I would like everyone in their bridesmaids dresses as we will be taking pictures all night and I didn’t want any other bridesmaids asking “can I change too?” however I feel like an asshole denying her. At the same time, it’s only one night and it’s okay for me to be a little selfish right now.
Am I the asshole?
UPDATE I hear everyone and I agree with some of you. I agree that a compromise should be made and that if it makes her more comfortable then she along with anyone else have the option to change after dinner.
I don’t have thyroid issues so I do not understand the symptoms.
I do however want to address some things in the comments. I made this post because I do genuinely care, I saw comments where my genuinity was questioned and just wanted people to agree with me. Completely untrue.
To the weddings I’ve been to it is unusual that bridesmaids change out of their bridesmaids dresses.
I’ve had to suck it up at weddings before so I did not think this was a big ask especially if my only request was the length and the color, they could choose literally any dress that suited their body.
From my understanding she is still currently looking for a dress.
I also do want to address some questions that were asked.
- No she is NTA
- No I am not going to tell her to come as a guest if she doesn’t wear the dress all night
- Yes I will be wearing my dress all night and will not be changing
- Yes I am considered plus size, bigger than her actually so yes I do understand the feeling of being uncomfortable in a dress
- Yes the color (dusty blue) was made aware to all of my bridesmaids when they were asked to be a bridesmaid
