AITAH for telling my roommate that she needs to move out before the baby comes?
I don’t know if I was being harsh, I was just being honest with my roommate. I(19f)share an apartment with my roommate, kayla(21f). We lived together for a year, it was my apartment first but my aunt suggested having a roommate would be beneficial to both of us.
About two months ago she told me she was pregnant, I thought the situation was weird but I congratulated so I wouldn’t be rude. I was shocked because the dude she’s dating is an old guy that’s married, she said they’ve been dating for 6 months.
I believe that the guy cut contact with her. I wanted to see what she would do because having a baby in this situation? She said she was figuring it out, weeks went on. She finally sat down with me and told me she’s keep the baby and wants to raise it in the apartment. I won’t lie, I was upset because that’s not suitable for a baby.
I told her
– we live in a two-bedroom
– Very thin walls
– I’m in school full time but work night shifts.
– She’s in school to be a lawyer and wouldn’t have enough time to study
– The lease statements that we can’t have no long term. Guest.( lol the baby being a guest, imagine that)
She’ went on to say the baby isn’t a guest and she can figure it out. She started venting about how her boyfriend isn’t answering her calls, she loves him, the last message he left her was that he will “beat her” if she comes around his family, I told her to report this but she thinks I’m out to get him. it was too much. She also can’t stay with her parents because they don’t condone her having a baby out of wedlock, she said they’ve are going to stop paying her college tuition. I feel like that’s crazy for a parent to do.
She had a plan, she asked if I was willing to help her. Like switching rooms so she can have the bigger one. Help when the baby cries, well dang. I told her then she will need to find another roommate, but no she’s scared because she’s already close to me.
I told her no because I don’t sign up to be a baby sister for an infant. I picked the roommate and not a baby, this isn’t a place for a child. I told her if she keeps the baby then she will need to find another place before the lease renews.
She begs crying saying I’m horrible for wanting to kick out a pregnant woman. She als said I know that she can’t afford a place of her own right now. I also suggested some women shelters and resources that can help her.
Her mural friends told me I was a bad person, if they think I’m a bad person and selfish, then why not take her in? I know why they don’t want to take her in, they’re just showing out. But I feel like this will change the living situation we agreed on.
