AITAH for “exposing my mother” and telling everyone why I’m going to a homeless shelter when I turn 18 in a few days.
I 17(F) was born Feb 22nd 2008, so I turn 18 in a couple days.
I’m my mother’s only child, she had complications during child birth that caused her to not be able to have anymore children(from what she told me). She blames me for it constantly. She’s a narcissist (I had just learned what that term meant and my mother fits it)
My mother has constantly been stealing money from me. She has sabotaged any opportunity to better myself. She has refused to give me information I need to apply for the FASFA form to apply for financial aid. Her reason “College is stupid anyway and I know you’d fail and flunk out.”
I’ve been a straight A student ever since I was in school. I graduated early from doubling my courses to get more credits. Every time I’d ask to join a sport in school she’d come up with all these excuses, “Well you’ll use it as an opportunity to sneak around and hand out with a bunch of boys” I have never even had a boyfriend, and I have never snuck out of the house to meet boys. Another excuse, “It’s all stupid anyways, you’ll just become even more stuck up than you are already.”
My mother always makes me clean the house top to bottom and never helps me. I already wake up early for my part time job. She always screams at me and says I half ass everything. I clean everything immaculately. Then she’ll purposefully leave messes, and accuse me of never cleaning up like she asked. Then she’d accuse me of being lazy. She’s a slob and leaves the house in nasty condition
She never lets me see my dad. She always tells me these horrible lies about him. They divorced when I was in middle school. This was because she was abusive to him. I would have asked my dad if I could live there but he lives in a studio apartment and his situation isn’t the best right now. I don’t have my own car so I can’t drive to see him. She would refuse to take me to see him. I haven’t seen my father for a year. I have his phone number memorized. I’m scared that if I write his phone number down, that she’ll know that I talk to him. The only reason got his number was 5 years ago, and that was when my aunt saw me out at Walmart. I secretly talk to him on the neighbors phone when my mother is at work. I’m blessed to have a good neighbor, she lets me use her phone because she knows of my situation.
What was the last straw was I had worked hard at my part time job. I had saved up 300$ I know it’s not much but I was going to use that money. I needed it for hygiene products, food and other needs. I confronted her about it. So I don’t have a bank account because I’m 17, so my mother convinced me to set up direct deposit to her bank account. This is not the first time she stole from me. I demanded to know why she took it. I told her I was also trying to save to move out. She said, “You’re money is my money. If you live in this house and make money it is going towards bills” That was another lie, she always used my money for her to go out to eat, but cigarettes, and to get her nails done. She also uses that money to buy clothes for her new boyfriend. Her boyfriend has his own place fortunately so I don’t have to see him much. I never liked him. He had a horrible and entitled attitude.
I was furious. My plans are when I turn 18 in three days, I’m going to a homeless shelter. Fortunately it’s not too hard to get into a shelter in my area. In the event that I do have a little bit of a wait to get into a homeless shelter, my friend said I could crash on her couch until I get into a homeless shelter, there will likely be a short wait.
On Facebook today I made a post, “When I leave in a couple days, I do not want to be reported missing. I am leaving because of my mother. She abused me financially, verbally, emotionally and physically. She always sabotages me and steals my paychecks from me. She makes me clean the house too to bottom because she is a slob and if I didn’t clean it we’d have roaches and all other kinds of pests. She refuses to give me information for my FASFA. The bullshit reasons she gave me were, “College is stupid anyways and you’ll just flunk out.” She is overbearing and a control freak. She had sabotaged any good opportunity I had. I am going to a shelter when I turn 18, because I can’t handle my mother’s abuse anymore. So do not come looking for me. She doesn’t let me see my father out of spite for him. Anything you heard from her is a bunch of lies.”
Then my family members from both sides called and texted my mother. They tore into her. My mother bursted into my room and demanded to know why I was going to a homeless shelter. She said I’m not allowed to leave. I calmly responded, “When I’m 18 there’s not a thing you can do about it”
Now my mother has been ranting all day, yelling, cursing, breaking things and slamming things in the house. I packed my backpack of all my essentials. Clothing and hygiene products. I also sneakily put my social security card and birth certificate in my bag. I also have a secret phone my aunt gave me two years ago and that’s how I am on Reddit. This is the phone I’ll be taking with me. My phone took the phone she gave me months ago. She has no idea about my secret phone. I am using a fake name on here for safety. I already know my mother isn’t on social media, because she claims it’s narcissistic. Which is a real mind blow there.
I have secret money stashed away, 20$ so I can take the bus to go to the homeless shelter, or in the event that I have to go to my friends house before going to the shelter.
AITAH?
