AITJ for being in the room when my brother had surgery because his wife couldnt be there

AITJ for being in the room when my brother had surgery because his wife couldnt be there

My girlfriend is making me feel like I did something wrong and I genuinely cannot figure out what the problem is.

So about a week ago my brother called me in a panic. He needed emergency surgery. Nothing life threatening but it was sudden and he was scared. His wife is overseas for work right now and couldnt get back in time. He asked me to come to the hospital and be there with him.

I didnt even think about it. I just went. Called my girlfriend on the way and told her what was happening. She said she hoped he was ok and that she would meet us there.

She showed up and sat in the waiting room while I went back with him. They let me stay while they prepped him and I was there when he went under and I was there when he woke up. He was out of it and emotional and honestly really vulnerable. He cried a little when he came to and grabbed my hand and I just sat there with him until he was coherent again.

When I came back out to the waiting room my girlfriend was acting weird. Quiet. Short answers. I figured she was just tired or stressed from the whole situation so I didnt push it.

Then in the car she hit me with it. She said it was weird that I was in there with him during something so personal and intimate. She said she thought it was inappropriate for me to see him like that. That it crossed some kind of boundary.

I was speechless. Hes my BROTHER. He was scared and alone and asked me to be there. What was I supposed to say. No sorry thats too intimate go through it by yourself?

Shes been bringing it up for days now. Says she thinks he shouldve asked her instead since shes a woman and it wouldve been less weird. But weve only been together for about eight months. My brother barely knows her. Why would he ask someone hes met a handful of times to be there for one of the most vulnerable moments of his life instead of his own sibling.

I keep asking her what the real issue is because the reason she keeps giving me doesnt make any sense. She wont give me a straight answer. Just keeps saying it felt wrong and I should understand why.

I told her honestly I think she needs to talk to someone about this because whatever is bothering her isnt rational and Im not going to apologize for being there for my brother when he needed me. She didnt take that well either.

The frustrating part is my brother actually really likes her. Hes been trying to include her in family stuff and shes always been welcome. I dont know where this is coming from and its starting to make me look at her differently.

AITJ for being there and refusing to apologize for it?