Am I wrong for confronting my girlfriend when I realized she took credit for something she didn’t really do?
A few days ago, my girlfriend and I were celebrating something, and she gave me chocolates she said she made herself. She was really excited and told me she’d spent hours on them. She works a small waitress job and doesn’t make much, so I didn’t mind that her gift wasn’t expensive compared to what I got her. I thought it was thoughtful that she tried. I didn’t even know she knew how to make sweets since she always says she can barely cook.
Later, I asked how she learned to make them, and that’s when I found out she just melted pre-made chocolate and poured it into molds. The fillings weren’t homemade either, she used store-bought caramel and fruit spreads. Everything was already prepared. From my perspective, she didn’t actually “make” them, yet she was really proud of herself. Normally I let things slide because she’s sensitive to criticism, but this time it bothered me.
It felt like she exaggerated what she did, so I called her out for saying she made them. She got upset and insisted she did make them because she “put in so much effort.” In the middle of our argument about whether it’s okay to mislead me like that, she started texting someone and said she didn’t want to argue anymore. She ended up having her sister come pick her up, and she’s been staying with her the last two days.
Her sister called me a d ck on her way out, which makes me think my girlfriend may have told her a different version of the story. Otherwise, I’m not sure why she’d be that angry at me. At first, I felt completely justified. But now I’m starting to question whether I overreacted. I know she isn’t much of a cook, so maybe I shouldn’t have expected something fully from scratch. She’s usually really sweet and texts me constantly, but she’s barely spoken to me the past couple of days, and I’m wondering if I should’ve just let it go.
A lot of people are focused on how I refer to her. She knows I call her “my girl,” and she calls me “her dude.” She also refers to her job as a little waitress job since it’s more of a side gig. The way I talk isn’t really the issue.
Some people also asked my age and what I got her. I’m 32, and I gave her some vintage figurines she collects.
And to clarify further, some commenters seem to think she put more effort into the chocolates than she described. People are mentioning thermometers and complicated techniques, but she just used the microwave to melt the chocolate. She doesn’t even own a kitchen thermometer. From what she explained, she melted it, poured it into molds, and added store-bought fillings. That doesn’t sound like the more involved “homemade” process people are describing. Some have suggested I try making them myself to see how difficult it is, and I might, since what others are describing actually sounds challenging, unlike simply microwaving and assembling pre-made ingredients.
