I am the party planner of the family. Always have been. when someone I love hits a milestone I go out of my way to make the feel special. I’ve thrown huge parties for my MIL FIL SIL my husband my parents my kids. Everyone. Every single year without fail everyone just sort of forgets mine. Typically it doesn’t bother me much and I shrug it off but this year I was sort of in my emotions about turning 40. I work remote. I dont get out of the house much. I am craving seeing my friends and have some fun. I have been mentioning this to my family for months because Ive been a bit down. Well here we are, my birthday and everyone forgot. My mom planned a dinner a few weeks out. Thats it. I planned a spa day in hopes to cheer myself up but my husband asked me to cancel it to cut my FILs hair. No calls or texts today. No dinner. Im just so sad. I really thought they would think of me and do something, even if its small. Worst part of it all is he told me he sat in the parking lot of a Med Spa today and considered getting me a giftcard but decided against it. I just cried. Why even tell me?

For context my husband is a bit of a loner. He doesn’t have many friends so when I go out I do so by myself. He refuses to come with but encourages me to go on my own. It sort of sucks but I respect he is the way he is. I ended up being the third wheel alot with my friends because of it. I am more of the social one in the marriage and its loney at times. He really only hangs out with his parents. I keep making excuses for him but I think he genuinely doesn’t know how to engage others or plan a party. Not sure why I was expecting so much from him but regardless he could have made a dinner reservation or something. The haircut comment sent me over the edge.