AITJ for not inviting my vegan sister to my BBQ because she always complains about meat?
I’m hosting a BBQ next weekend. Burgers, hot dogs, ribs – typical BBQ food. My sister (27F) is vegan and VERY vocal about it.
At every family gathering where there’s meat she makes comments about “dead animals” and shows people videos of factory farms on her phone. Last Thanksgiving she cried at the table about the turkey.
I decided not to invite her to my BBQ because I don’t want the drama. I told my mom who told her.
Sister called me furious saying I’m excluding her for her “beliefs.” I said you’re welcome to come if you can respect that others eat meat, but no lectures or guilt trips.
She said she has a right to “speak her truth” and if people are uncomfortable that’s their problem. I said exactly – so I’m not inviting you.
She said she’d bring her own vegan food and stay quiet. I said based on history I don’t believe that.
Now my parents are mad saying I’m being discriminatory. My mom offered to make a separate vegan section at the BBQ. I said that’s not the point – the point is sis can’t handle being around meat without making everyone uncomfortable.
AITJ for not inviting her when I know she’ll ruin the vibe?
TL;DR: Vegan sister always complains loudly about meat at family events, I didn’t invite her to my BBQ, she says I’m discriminating against her beliefs, family thinks I should include her anyway.
