AITJ for refusing to change our baby’s name because my father-in-law hates it?

AITJ for refusing to change our baby’s name because my father-in-law hates it?

My husband (30M) and I (29F) just had our first baby two weeks ago. We named her “Elena.” We both love the name, it has meaning to us, and we agreed on it early in the pregnancy.

Enter my father-in-law (mid 60s).

From the moment we announced the name, he’s been vocal about not liking it. He says it’s “too fancy,” “too hard to pronounce” (it’s really not), and that we should have named her after my husband’s late mother. For context, we did consider honoring her, but ultimately decided we wanted our daughter to have her own name.

At the hospital, he made a comment like, “Well, I guess I’ll just call her Ellie since that’s more normal.” I brushed it off at the time because I was exhausted and didn’t want to argue.

Since we’ve been home, he’s doubled down. He refers to her exclusively as “Ellie” and even posted on Facebook welcoming “Baby Ellie” to the family. I politely corrected him in the comments, saying, “Her name is Elena .” He later called my husband and said I embarrassed him publicly.

Last weekend he came over and again kept calling her Ellie. I finally said, “Her name is Elena. If you can’t use her actual name, we’re going to have a problem.” He said I was being disrespectful and that “in this family we honor tradition.”

Now he’s telling extended family that I’m trying to erase their family history and that I’m “keeping his granddaughter from him” because I said we’d limit visits if he can’t respect her name.

My husband agrees his dad is being stubborn, but thinks threatening to limit visits was “too extreme” and that we should just let the nickname thing go to keep the peace.

I feel like this is about basic respect. It’s her name. We chose it. I don’t think it’s asking much for him to use it.

So… am I the jerk for drawing a line over this?