AITAH for not wanting my gf to get tattoos?
never thought i’d be posting here for advice but after watching countless hours of smosh readings i’ve been inspired. that being said, if there are any reddit etiquette rules i’m breaking with my formatting or if this should be in a diff subreddit please let me know
i (23M) recently got out of a 7 month relationship with my ex (22F) and while things are amicable between us, some disagreements we had are still bugging me. one of the more prominent being how much a person changing should be expected.
the main way this disagreement was expressed was about tattoos. one of my (current) relationship boundaries is no above the shoulder/facial tattoos. nothing against people that do have them and i think they can look sick but personally they aren’t attractive. my ex, who i’ll refer to as Anne, said she has no intention of getting one right now but doesn’t want that door closed for the future if she changes her mind.
i understand change is inevitable for everyone, regardless of relationship status and that atp in our lives we are still figuring everything out(not that it ever rly stops). however, Anne would apply that logic towards many other aspects of our relationship that i would assume/hope never change. kinda saying “that’s how I feel now, but who knows what the future holds depending on who i meet”. aspects like whether she wants an open relationship or not and/or her sexuality. hearing it said like that would cause me to feel like there’s no way to expect what’s coming and everything is dependent on the people around her think.
we have talked about the possibility of getting back together in the future as a large part for the breakup was circumstantial (long distance, school/work timing).
my relationship with Anne worked on so many other levels and i want things to be different if the time comes to try again, but im a little worried. am i just incompatible with Anne/someone like Anne who has such a high priority of freedom or should i be more comfortable with the idea of change overall ?
thank you for any and all advice🙏
p.s. i originally tried to post this to the relationship sub but got rerouted here. sorry that the title is a little clickbaity tho
