AITAH for evicting my BIL, his wife and their kid, knowing they have no where to go?
My husband (32) got in to a bad accident and hurt his back last year. He is still in PT 3 times a week and the progress has been small and he still needs more surgeries. His brother (29), his wife (34) and his wifes daughter (13) had just become homeless and all shelters were full.
They had no where to go and were staying in their vehicle in freezing temps. My husband asked if i minded if they came to stay with us. We had 2 extra bedrooms, his brother would help with bills and help pick up the slack in our home (we run a farm). I agreed, as i saw no reason to say no. I made my rules abundantly clear and drafted a month to month lease agreement, notorized.
My rules were simple. Clean up after yourselves because I absolutely refuse to clean up after 3 extra people (i have 3 kids myself), do not disrespect me-my home-my kids-etc, and do not bring drama to my home. The first few months went by great. BIL was paying $400 a month, which covered their electric and water usage, and buying their own food. It didnt exactly help out financially like the original verbal agreement had been but whatever. I just started working extra hours. However, by month 6 these people became absolute burdens. BIL and his family kept plugging away at our food because he “forgot” to go grocery shopping (his wife refuses to drive, theres zero food delivery around here). BIL started slowly but surely missing rent payments and always gave this excuse that he was just stressed and “forgot” because he was busy working and helping take care of our farm and simply “didnt have time” to get to the bank.
And then came the big one for me. They started becoming slobs. The step daughter started leaving menstraul wrappers scattered in our bathroom. Started collecting cans and dishes in her bedroom and gave us a bug infestation. Started leaving her fake eyelashes and fake nails EVERYWHERE in the bathroom. Eyelashes on the walls, fake nails in the shower and in the shower drains. Started taking 40+ minute showers and started leaving her clothing/wet towels everywhere. All her dirty clothes she would just dump in front of the washer and walk off, leaving mounds of clothing in the hallway.
Whenever she was told to pick up after herself, she would hulk stomp through the house, slam doors, scream at everyone, and then get PETTY. Like she would throw me and my sons clean clothing on the floor that I had folded and put on the dryer (my kids put away their own clothing). Or she would dump bleach all over the bathroom floor while my baby (2yo) was in there with her and start moping with straight bleach without a window open. I lost my shit on her on that one. She did it once again afterwards. Started “washing” her dishes by rinsing them with cold water and thats it. No scrubbing, no soap. Our house went from clean and functional to an absolute shit show 24/7. BIL was never home to correct his step kid. His wife is just a lazy POS and stays in her bedroom 24/7. Doesnt cook for them, doesnt clean, nothing. Just stays in her room watching tv/gaming.
I brought this up woth BIL last night after my husband and I talked and BIL was pissed and said that I needed to stop acting high and mighty and treating his step kid to a different standard than my own boys. Which makes no sense. My kids run the farm, go to school, do sports AND do ALL their chores. Their rooms are clean. Their bathrooms are clean. I dont clean up after my kids (aside from the 2yo, he is a menace). But he was just dodging and deflecting and blaming me and my children and I guess I just lost it. Between him skimping on his tiny rent payments and him and his family basically destroying my house and being ignorant and angry all the time, i just told him we were done and he had until the end of the month to leave.
He asked if I was serious, asked who was going to run my farm (me and my kids, thats who) and said I was “fucking heartless” because I know they will be back in their vehicle. I told him that wasnt my problem and I did not care. AITA? My MIL (she lives in Peru) has been blowing up my phone saying her son made a mistake marrying such a “repulsive woman”.
