AITAH for expecting my sister to plan my wedding for free and demoting her to guest wh m she wouldn’t. I also told anyone who took her side I was not helping them anymore either.
My fiance and I have a small accounting office. We do pretty well on account of both of us being bilingual. English and Spanish for me and English and Ukrainian for him. About 10% of my business is family and friends of the family. I have taken barter for work more often than you can imagine. All above board and documented. My aunt paid in empanadas one year. My “uncle” had his mom make us a huge batch of tamales. Even my dad has been helping my fiance fix up his truck. I’ve had to pick him up more than once because my mom stuffs him and my dad gets him loaded on aguardiente.
Everyone we have ever traded with has provided fair exchange. I have done my sister’s accounting since she started her wedding planning company. Obviously she has nothing to trade so I have been doing it for free. First to help her get started and now because we don’t of just fell into that rut. But now I am getting married. I told everyone at dinner and my mom and dad’s house. I asked her if she would plan my wedding and me my maid of honor. She said yes to maid of honor but not to planning my wedding. I asked her why not and she said I would need to pay for her services. That she can’t do free stuff for family because she needs to make money at her job. She literally said it like I didn’t know what a job was.
So I talked to my fiance and then to my parents. W told my sister that she would be getting an invitation but that she was no longer in the wedding party. I also gave her all her files for the year on a USB drive. I said she needed to take he business elsewhere. My mom and dad told her that I was right and that they were disappointed that she wanted to make money off me after everything I did to help her.
She went to social media to complain and a few people took her side. Which is fair. I don’t expect everyone to see my point. But then a few started contacting me. I listened and then asked them if I should continue working for her for free. Most said no. A few said family helps family. If I did their taxes I told them I was not doing them this year or in the future. They tried to backpedel but I held strong.
My siste says she wont come. I told her to RSVP no. She said she wasn’t thinking when she said no. Not my problem. She has two months to get a ne accountant.
