AITAH for not telling my Ex-Husband I am expecting?
Post Update
Hey Everyone! Haven’t updated y’all since my last post- I am doing well and filled for divorce some months ago since then I’ve moved and started basically a new life!
Since the incident I am no longer in contact with my Ex husbands family but my former SIL (Janet). Janet is the only “thing” left from my past life and I am really grateful for that our relationship is very dear to me. Since what happened with me and her family we talked everything through and she started distancing herself from them.
Which I don’t expect from her but am grateful for. Non of her family members know that we are in contact and we thought it would be the best for the both of us. Lately I realized that Janet would mention her family more often then she used to, I thought that maybe she missed them but she would also tell me about conversations they had which didn’t sound like old ones, but I trusted her.
Last week Janet and I talked and She mentioned how much her brother changed (my Ex Husband) first I didn’t think much of it, but she kept bringing it up – When I told her I was expecting she was confident its from her brother and would not stop mentioning that a child should not grow up without a father figure. She would invite me over and always talk about how easy it is when her husband helps taking care of their child.
On one morning a number I haven’t saved called when I answered my phone I heard my Ex Husband screaming and swearing at me, somehow I felt like I couldn’t hang up it reminded me of the times when he would get angry at me, I felt like a child, crying.
When he finally stopped I hung up. I felt scared not knowing where he got my number from. later that day the same number called again and something in me just answered but this time he was calm and nice he tried engaging in small talk but I didn’t reply. Till this day I am confident he was drunk, He started crying asking me to return to him to forgive him, hearing him like this I too started crying. But then he told me that Janet gave him my number and I froze.
I hung up and tried calling her but I couldn’t reach her, She told me she wasn’t in contact with him because of the amount of abuse he made me go through but her giving him my number really made me upset she wasn’t only lying into my face but even betrayed me. When she finally called back she was really happy asking me if we rekindled.
I was so angry I couldn’t even talk at first I started shouting asking her how she could give him my personal information. She started accusing me of withholding her brothers right of knowing that I am pregnant- I was shocked because she knew I wouldn’t tell him not because I am selfish but to protect me and my child and it coming from her even hurts more.
I’m writing this to ask for advice again- I am unsure if she only has good intentions! And if telling my Ex would have been the right decision.
FIRST UPDATE:
I am currently staying with my mother, just incase to stay safe.
I’m not going to share my child’s father over here thats not the point of the post!
An abortion is not an option!
Sorry for not answering all questions I am trying to take a break from everything for now.-
