I (f31) have a burn scar that starts from my neck and hoes down to my collarbone. It’s been there since the fire accident that happened at my ex-husband’s home. It does not look as bad as it did before, but the damage has been done. I’ve already suffered so much because of this scar. My ex husband left me literally within a year. and I struggled with finances and my mental health and so on. Thankfully, my parents have been incredibly supportive, especially my dad he’s been my absolute rock and he and my mom helped me get back on my feet.

Now to the situation, my younger sister is getting married. She previously made comments about my scar but always said it was for my good. Days ago, we were all gathered at my parents home and overheard her talk to mom about my scar. She was basically asking my mom if she could convince me to buy a turtle neck dress to wear at her wedding. Mom must’ve told her that we agreed to go shopping together. I was stunned and speechless but did not do anything dramatic or confront her I just stayed calm and left early.

Mom noticed and called to know what’s wrong. I told her about what I heard my sister say and she started defending her saying I took her words out of context, and that she was just giving “dress suggestions”. I said doesn’t matter cause I wasn’t gonna attend the wedding. She must’ve told my sister cause she sent me an invitation literally the next which I turned down and returned. It had the whole family react.

They tried to convince me to reconsider..and said that my sister meant no harm and that if I miss the wedding my relationship with her will be completely ruined. Her fiance called and asked to meet but I made up some excuse about being busy cause I felt like I had no energy to deal with the back and forth.

Now my dad says he won’t even come if I don’t so now the situation got worse and my sister is beggjng to reconcile and “work this out” but I refused.

what do you think? Am I overreacting here?