AITA for not wanting my mom to try on my Cartier ring?
I am a gay man currently in college in a relationship with a guy who I met in college. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I mean that seriously. Anyways, we’ve been together for about a year and a half now, I’m still in college and he graduated this summer.
After he graduated he got a job in a major city that is not at all far from my hometown, so I decided to move back in with my mom for this school year and finish college here so that we could be together. Things between us have blossomed since. Things with me and my mother on the other hand have not. Since I’ve moved back there have been many scuffles between us and our relationship has been hurt. She doesn’t like my boyfriend, she thinks we’re too young to be in a serous relationship, at one point the idea of me and my boyfriend moving in together came up, which was somthing I wasn’t sure about so I asked her opinion on it.
It ended up being a whole argument with her calling me stupid and ungrateful, etc. Then around our one year mark he wanted to ask me to marry him. I knew that he was planning on doing it and I knew the visceral reaction that my mother would have if he had done so, so I told him beforehand that I knew what he was planning and it was not a good idea. And to be fair, I feel it’s too quick, even without my mom’s opinion being a factor.
He decided to go ahead and give me the ring- a White Gold Cartier Love ring- for me to wear on my right hand for now, and then on my left when we later on do decide to get engaged. A bit of a strange arrangement I know, but one that works for the both of us. So that leads us to our latest adventure with my mother.
So the other night my mom had some of her friends over for at our house. There were only a few of us there, and I know and love all of them. My mom in front of everyone decided to ask me if she could try on my ring for size.
I said no. This ring is not just a piece of jewelry for us, it’s a meaningful commitment to one another- and an expensive one at that. She then proceeded to lose her shit right there infront of everyone. She started calling me “selfish, self absorbed, a little bitch”, etc.
She the attempted to forcibly remove the ring from my hand and when I prevented her from doing so, she got even more belligerent. At this point I walked off and did not speak to her the rest of the evening. Several hours later after everyone had gone home and she was getting ready for bed I asked her if she would like to have any further conversation on what had upset her so much earlier.
She again just reiterated that I was being selfish. I tried to explain to her the significance behind the ring and the fact that I don’t want anyone other than myself to wear it, and she said that “makes zero fucking sense”. At this point I again just walked off and she called me a “piece of shit” as I walked back to my bedroom. I am the asshole in this situation?
