AITA for feeling annoyed my stepdaughter came back after making my life miserable for years?
My partner has a teenage daughter who has a serious attitude/behaviour problem and has since she was 12 when I met her, she’s going on 17 now. Her mother lives overseas and the past two years every argument in our house always circled back to her wanting to move back over with her mother. She’s moved here because her mother was having mental health issues.
I have done nothing but give and give and give. Emotionally, financially, practically and anything you can think of that a mother would do, I have done for many years and in return I am treated like a house maid.
She doesn’t help with anything around the house, basic things like rinsing and putting something in the dishwasher, keeping her room tidy etc
Whilst I was pregnant we had an argument over the washing machine. She hadn’t done washing for 4 weeks, and the day I needed to many loads as I was doing bedding she ran downstairs to try and take out my stuff and put hers in (it was one pair of swimmers, and shorts), I told her no, you can wait for it to finish.
This escalated and she called me a c*nt and I told her to get out of my house. She took off and came back the next day packed a suitcase and was going to take off, her dad said for her not to go and if she did he’d call the police as she’s a minor. Sure enough she left, he called the police. They picked her up and we had to go to the police station to pick her up. She was so rude to the police and rude to me in front of the police (I was 6 months pregnant).
During the rest of the pregnancy she was again horrible towards me, saying things like “if it’s a boy I don’t want it, I don’t care I’m moving back to my mom anyway”.
Baby was born, and she was a different child. Loved her sibling things were good, but it was her time to go back for a holiday with her mom and now she’s 16 it was her decision as to what she wanted to do, go back overseas and live with her mom, or stay here.
6 week later she decided to come back here but now I feel resentment. This girl ruined my pregnancy by causing arguments every weekend between me and her father as he always would try and be neutral, but in the end it would end up with him accusing me of picking on her. Even though she was being verbally abusive towards us both, being extremely unhygienic to the point her smell would spread through the house from her room, I said no vaping in the house, but we can see vapes laying around. The list goes on.
Sure enough night 1 of her return my partner and I have a fight (first one in 6 weeks) and then today she dropped $360 worth of expenses on us, which we had no time to budget or plan for. Which is a lot as I’m not working at the moment as I’m on maternity leave.
I don’t understand why she would have come back when she said for 2 years she’s was acting out like that because she wanted to move back with her mom. I can’t help feel like all of that was for attention.
